This is also how christians should evangelize when they're doing it right. It's others-focused. It's leadership by serving and as we care for others we trust that our needs will be met in return. I just think that if they use this model for shit that's supposed to be about spreading their message and reflect the highest of virtues of their God caring for others first as the first step must have some substance to it. Not trying to be preachy or anything just the similarities intrigued me. And another thing I think is we are very selfish these days, I get that we need to care about ourselves... the Flight Attendant can't help others put on their masks until they don their own...But we have taken that a little too far and made it weird with selfishness... I see this on ALL dating app interactions I have had. I used to think the problem with dating was the apps but really the thing is most of the people on these apps are shitty and selfish. I love your advice of service. You never do wrong when you love people and it might be a minor way but just doing life with people and being helpful to them is an AMAZING thing we shouldn't take for granted and exercise frequently. If we help meet the needs of others, our solutions for ourselves will manifest in return.
How about joining a Ukrainian expat group. I find expats are keen to make new friends. Or choose a foreign language group, any language Meetup group. Great way to have a social interaction at least while you are working on deeper friendships
Great suggestion, Diane. When I was an expat, the American expat group was super helpful for making friends. A huge bonus was that it helped me make intergenerational friendships with women decades older than me. Like your suggestion, I made myself useful in that group and taught a “technology” workshop where basically I troubleshot older women’s issues with their smart phones. The letter writer mentions wanting to make friends who are also entrepreneurs and moms of young kids, but widening those parameters can help a lot. Then you’re not trying to plan around activities for say, 4 kids total, but just 2 kids - if the other person is little kid-free.
Several years ago and newish to town, I tried another piece of your advice. I knew two families who seemed compatible with ours and I doubled down on both with plans and invites. One didn’t take but the other became a long-term couple/ family friendship that’s central for both me and my partner.
The iconic Courtney and Drew pic!!!
I love the idea of ratcheting it down and folding into what's already happening.
Lots to think about--thanks for the video!
This is also how christians should evangelize when they're doing it right. It's others-focused. It's leadership by serving and as we care for others we trust that our needs will be met in return. I just think that if they use this model for shit that's supposed to be about spreading their message and reflect the highest of virtues of their God caring for others first as the first step must have some substance to it. Not trying to be preachy or anything just the similarities intrigued me. And another thing I think is we are very selfish these days, I get that we need to care about ourselves... the Flight Attendant can't help others put on their masks until they don their own...But we have taken that a little too far and made it weird with selfishness... I see this on ALL dating app interactions I have had. I used to think the problem with dating was the apps but really the thing is most of the people on these apps are shitty and selfish. I love your advice of service. You never do wrong when you love people and it might be a minor way but just doing life with people and being helpful to them is an AMAZING thing we shouldn't take for granted and exercise frequently. If we help meet the needs of others, our solutions for ourselves will manifest in return.
How about joining a Ukrainian expat group. I find expats are keen to make new friends. Or choose a foreign language group, any language Meetup group. Great way to have a social interaction at least while you are working on deeper friendships
Great suggestion, Diane. When I was an expat, the American expat group was super helpful for making friends. A huge bonus was that it helped me make intergenerational friendships with women decades older than me. Like your suggestion, I made myself useful in that group and taught a “technology” workshop where basically I troubleshot older women’s issues with their smart phones. The letter writer mentions wanting to make friends who are also entrepreneurs and moms of young kids, but widening those parameters can help a lot. Then you’re not trying to plan around activities for say, 4 kids total, but just 2 kids - if the other person is little kid-free.
Several years ago and newish to town, I tried another piece of your advice. I knew two families who seemed compatible with ours and I doubled down on both with plans and invites. One didn’t take but the other became a long-term couple/ family friendship that’s central for both me and my partner.
Great insights!
Great video, very helpful, thanks Anna Have a great weekend!